I get that! Message me if you want to, I'll share my best tips for managing Collarme... You know, not that I'm this big success story or anything, but I'm not scared of it anymore.aisha
I am scared too....you are not alone...there seem to be lots of angry judgmental people there. HSxx
Yeah, I am not too impressed with the sites as a general rule. I did meet slavegirl on collarme, and a couple of people on fetlife, but I dunno. cm feels like a meat market and fet is cliquey. Feel free to add me on fet though, I am beast_master.
Never been on collar me, but Fet is fun. Yes, it can seem a little cliquey, but so far everyone has been very nice. Yes, people will ask you to play, but all are very respectful about taking the no for no. There is a lot of information to be had. I'm there, so like the Beast, you can add me too.
As the Beast says - CollarMe is very much a 'meat market' - got in to all kinds of strange games there and ran away with my tail between my legs :)But FetLife I find a very friendly place and good for 'learning'
i'm on fet too - friend me if you want to - Aisha_54. CM is tricky, but I met Sir D there, and BR and a few other people I still talk to. aisha
i have just joined fetlife but am just looking around and enjoying browsing the groups. i was advised to put the status 'under protection' to keep peeps away until i am ready to change it, this may help you in the meantime. i havent bothered with collarme.blossom xx
I tried Collarme and met D there -- as well as Bachelor #2 and NQLBut it's just the most bizarre thing ever -- you get FLOODED with messages....but in time you stop being the hottest flavor and it calms down.OKCupid seems to be a vanilla site that attracts a lot of "our type"on Fet I'm peacefulsubbie -- and that date last night? Someone from there (although it's drama drama drama for a lot of folks)buck up sunshine -- it'll get bettersfp
With a little time you will not find them intimidating, I have been on CM (DavidinVegas) forever, and am not sure why. As many have said, CM is a meat market, but a lot of the meat tastes tainted. FetLife started out great, I was an early adopter (DSinVegas) and find it a good philosophical source. I suspect it is a good way to develop a wide friend base, even friend-ing locals.But I think it takes a commitment of time spent on there to get the sense of it.