So "R" called me and we spoke, details came out that I wasn't exactly thrilled about. Such as he is 54 and only been divorced for 6 months. The age thing I can work with because he doesn't look or act 54, but the 6 months divorced thing is an issue. Through experience I have a policy not to get involved with someone who hasn't been divorced for at least a year. I know some would disagree but after a divorce or being widowed people need time to re-group and I don't want to be the rebound person. We are supposed to meet for coffee on Sunday but I think I am probably going to cancel.
"S" wants to meet for coffee Friday morning. He is a guy who I had contact with last year when I first started this process. I had to cancel a first date with him and he wrote back saying I was a fake. The second time I posted an ad he responded again but I told him no, that he was mean to me and I didn't appreciate it. He apologized but I still said no. Now here he is again, so we will see. One sign of anything similar to that and he's out for good.
"J" and I have a lunch date on Saturday, he also found me on a vanilla dating site (which at first I thought was weird, but then I realized I probably would have done the same thing), I feel like I have seen his profile before. The good thing was at least my friend the serial dater hasn't been out with him.
I think "B" is out just because he doesn't respond in a timely manner to the point of being rude.
There is another guy "J" #2 but he seems like a flake, so he's probably headed to the no column.
I woke this morning to have a very unusual email from a soldier in Afghanistan (with pic) and he wanted to start something long distance so he would have someone to come home to. I felt guilty saying no because I respect and feel bad for him being over there but I can't do long distance, I need (deserve) more.