I went to "K's" home, an apartment in a high-rise downtown. As we were talking he told me to turn around, he came up behind me pushing my body against the bar counter top and began kissing my neck. His kisses turned into biting, but not with all teeth just a couple. When he was done greeting me we walked downtown for dinner, BB Kings. Very enjoyable dinner discussing various topics and then we went back to his place. Before I left I visited the ladies room and there was an attendant. I asked her to look at my the back of my shoulder (because it was stinging) and sure enough where he had bitten me there was already a bruise starting. I told her my date had bitten me...then I said isn't that a good way to start off the night? She laughed and gave me that look of are you crazy.
We sat on the couch together making out, he had straddled me on the couch so that I was trapped under him as he had fun with me. Then he stood up and said come with me. Into the other bedroom, he placed a basket and towel on the bed and said, get undressed and put on this towel. He left the room and I stood there for a couple of minutes just thinking about what I wanted to do. I thought of Aisha and how she had flown somewhere to meet with a man and here I just had a 20 min. drive, this is what I wanted a lover. I began to undress and wrapped the towel around myself.
I walked out and he was on the couch, he told me to kneel at his feet. He looked at me and said this is your place, kneeling in front of me with your head on my chest. "K" had me repeat it several times to make sure I understood and said when we are out and I remind you about your place this is what I want you to think of. Then surprising me, he just held me against his chest and petted my hair. He kept talking about how safe I was and how nothing would happen unless I wanted it to, he reminded me I had my safe words - yellow to slow down and red to stop. This went on for a good 25 min. just holding me. Then he began to kiss me hard, pulling my hair, biting my lip - neck & chest. It was the same intense stuff we did in the parking lot only this time I was kneeling in front of him with my ass sticking up, essentially naked. There was some spanking, nipple pulling, etc. After each session he would bring me back to my place and pet me. By the time we finished I felt like I had melted into his chest and really did feel safe.
He had me stand up (no towel) and he stood in front of me. More of what he had been doing on the couch continued and this time he added scratching. He took his finger nails and dragged them along the sides of my back, it was F----ing painful. The more I cried out the more he continued, I thought after a few times it would be over so I endured but he just kept going. So much so that I used the yellow word. I had closed my eyes and he had to tell me several times to look at him. I could hear him but I felt stuck and when I finally opened them my brain was foggy. He held me and we talked a little. Then we started kissing passionately and instead of me leaving like we had planned, I knew we were going to keep going.
"K" brought me into his bedroom and told me to lie on the bed. He got on top of me and we had sex.
Here is where I began to question things....how can D/s thing be so intense, so wonderful and so fullfilling but the sex is so not good. This is the second D I have been with that had the same issue (conicidentally someone from last year). They are masters of the words, pain and pleasure but when it comes to the act of sex they just can't do it. One couldn't keep it hard enough, one didn't seem to know what to do with it when it was hard. Don't get me wrong I would definately see him again because the other was so good, my back is still burning from him. Reminding me what went on but I would be happy not having sex with him. He couldn't even make me cum hand or tongue, it was not good for a man so skilled in the other. It left me wondering if there are others have had a similar issue, I have been contimplating posting to the Submissive forum. I know sex is not the end all be all in this type of relationship but it is a part at least in this one.