Om pa Loom pa's are small. They have great personalities, but they are not so good to date.
I took a chance on guy, he came across great great on paper. Captured my attention, he wasn't a D but more of a dominant person. We communicated for a couple of weeks and finally made plans for breakfast today. I wanted to meet for my usual coffee, you know keep it short & sweet just in case (break glass in case of emergency) but he insisted that we do something more civilized and grown up. I picked the place a great local eatery, not a chain but something cute and colorful (my style).
Now if it had been for coffee I would have set up an emergency out as usual but this was early and my in case of emergencies were still sleeping, so I went in without back up. When I arrived he was down by the water and as he came towards me I realized that he was a 6 inches to a foot shorter than I was. OK I know what you are saying - shallow. I can deal with an inch shorter but anything more is just not for me. I like tall men, I will put up with someone the same height, not my first choice but if I really liked them I would deal with it. I wouldn't wear heels and then I would take off my shoe (1) when we kissed so I could be at the same and I would feel like I was being kissed and not the other way around.
So when he got to me, I knew there was no getting out of this date until after breakfast. I couldn't even enjoy myself plus I realized that he looked at me as more of a curiosity. He may have been a dominant person (maybe?) but it was at that moment I realized that a D is different. When I went out with "K" he had this way of observing me that made me know he was a D, a way of taking charge that was different. Now "K" wasn't for me because he was a sadist and I knew that it would only become more intense, but I did have fun experimenting.
It was suggested that I had messed up a good thing before and that now I regreted it. I don't, obviously it wasn't right. Now I haven't found anybody to replace that but that's not what I want because it wasn't right for me. I am still looking for the same thing I have always been looking for...taking away bits and pieces of each encounter, learning and molding myself so that when it does come along I will know.