First step is Respect

There is honor in being called Sir based on the knighthood  Code of Chivalry - A knight was expected to have not only the strength and skills to face combat in the violent Middle Ages but was also expected to temper this aggressive side of a knight with a chivalrous side to his nature. This code was a moral system which went beyond rules of combat and introduced the concept of Chivalrous conduct - qualities idealized by knighthood, such as bravery, courtesy, honor and gallantry toward women.

Some men who reach out to me, immediately want me to call them Sir or Master. I am immediately turned off by them, I am aware that it is a sign of respect but this is not a BDSM function or club, this is an exchange of emails to get to know someone. For me calling someone Sir is a big deal, it means our relationship has moved to another level, I have let go a little more. Just like subs want unconditional love, Dom's want unconditional respect and calling him Sir is a sign of the respect he needs and wants.  There is also comfort in calling someone special Sir, a reminder of who you belong too...not to mention the tingle I feel throughout my body.

I came across this passage as I was researching Sir & Knighthood, about the corner stones of a D/s relationship..."There are four corner stones of a serious long term D/s relationship. Respect is the first stone, without which there can be no learning about each other. With respect and times comes trust, the second stone. Both trust and respect must be present for total submission to be possible. How can a sub give herself totally if there isn't trust and respect in her Master? Love, the third corner stone, provides the desire to please and allows the Master control of his sub. Commitment, the fourth corner stone, gives life and maturity to the relationship. Commitment protects and nurtures the love, trust and respect and allows the relationship to grow and strengthen even in hard times. Respect, trust, love and commitment - Sir Real

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