I was asked how I felt about Domestic Discipline...mmm? It was followed up with, the discipline would be for not following the rules.
My immediate answer was I don't know? I definitely don't want to be afraid of the person I am with. On the other hand I also feel within a loving & trusting relationship that is evolving and growing something I may not like in the beginning I may grow to embrace later. I know that one of the failures of my previous relationship was him not being able to discipline for something he felt I had done wrong. Ultimately I came to realize later that this was something I wanted, needed, I wanted a firm hand to be reminded if I strayed. I almost feel like it is a form of love, that the person would care enough in a calm and rational manor to let me know I had done something wrong and that this was why I was being disciplined. Granted I may not always agree but knowing I had disappointed him would probably trump those feelings.
So I asked what would the rules be? There were a couple thrown out as an example - you must wear less clothes than he when at home, must be willing to give pleasure two times a day - there were several others but I can't remember them. Then I got confused because none of things mentioned seemed out of the normal. What is the difference between Domestic Discipline and D/s relationship.
So I turned to good old Google, my friend, my pal, my know it all. I came up with several that caught my eye (I am sure there are hundreds but I only chose these).
Seekers. "The term BDSM encompasses the full spectrum of three elements: bondage/discipline, dominance/submission, sadism/masochism. Those who practice BDSM choose which of these elements to include in their own play. Many include all three, and others are interested in only one aspect. There's a lot of freedom within the category. Some practitioners of Domestic Discipline also engage in some aspect of BDSM, but others do not."
Finding our Way said "BDSM is a type of role play or lifestyle choice between two or more individuals who use their experiences of pain and power to create sexual tension, pleasure, and release."
I never thought of TTWD as role play, I think of it as a way of life. I never thought there was a difference between D/s & Domestic Discipline. I thought it was all combined into one or maybe its because that is a combination I crave. I am thinking that DD is a term used within vanilla relationships and in a D/s relationship discipline is more the normal maybe? I guess things like corner time, kneeling time, etc are more maintenance to avoid being disciplined?
PS Yes I know that there are other discipline actions besides spanking, that are probably way worse (shudder) but for the purposes of wrapping my head around things, its just spanking for today.