What is chemistry? The catalyst for the relationship, animal attraction between two people that is purely physical. This connection appeals to the five senses. Chemistry is when the pleasure centers of the brain are engaged.
How do you know if you have chemistry with someone? You have chemistry when you know it is easy, when your goal for the day is to get back to that person. When you think about that person and just smile. You experience a rapid heartbeat, shortness of breath or that rush of adrenaline, skin may flush or have a weakness in the knees. Its that combination of psychological arousal combined with a feeling of pleasure.
Can you create chemistry with someone who you're not initially feeling it with? Some say yes and some say no. I think having constant contact with someone over weeks or months, it can build up and you can develop chemical bonding. Eye contact and discussing personal subjects can accelerate that bond.
Can you tell if you have chemistry with someone online or on the phone, or do you need to meet them in person? I think you can tell if you are compatible online but you can't tell if you have chemistry until you meet them in person. Eye to eye contact is important in transmitting emotions.
How long does it take to know if you have chemistry with someone? 5 minutes. Good chemistry equals moving forward and bad chemistry equals keep looking.
What is more important, chemistry or compatibility? Chemistry is most important, you can have compatibility with lots of people but chemistry is the rarer of the two. Chemistry is the connection that you have with someone. Compatibility is a partnership of similar goals. Compatibility cannot overcome a lack of chemistry. A combination of both is ideal and are what most people are seeking.
We met, there was no chemistry. It just wasn't there. He asked me if I could pin point what chemistry was so he could go buy it. I said it was an intangible quality that was either there or not. He felt that since we had the same goals and wants that we should just try. I told him it would be wrong to lead him him somewhere I didn't think it could go. He was hurt, confused and I felt bad but I knew it was the right decision.
As my friend would say - Next...