I read this several hours ago, couldn't get to my computer and now I am trying to cook a late breakfast - multitasking, angry and hopped up on diet coke & chai tea, a great combination for a post. :)
A friend sent me a post from Her Spirit His, she wrote about how a man had taken advantage of her and she was embarrassed. She had given him money. (sigh - head shaking).
This is a topic which makes me angry because about 5 yrs ago I was with a man who turned out to be a con-man, a gambler. Now if you have never met a man like this then you don't know that he wins you over before he goes in for the kill. He lulls you into thinking that you are important to him, have a place in his heart. Then slowly over time he shares himself with you and since you believe you are in a relationship that is equal, you think nothing of giving him what he wants. All in all he took over $6000 from me, a single mother of two. I gave him everything, my heart, a place to live, became a mother to his sons and myself. In the end I kicked him out, packed all his stuff in garbage bags and put them on the curb. I also burned what ever I found later because it was better than the alternative of what I really wanted to do. Run him down with my car, slash all his tires, plaster his face on a billboard with a warning sign, have him taken care of in a dark alley...and anything else that I could think of.
I also had a friend who was on a dating site and was talking to a man. This man was very suave and had the perfect profile. Widowed, child, lived close but not to close, engineer, traveled for business, looking for love, etc. As a matter of fact he was abroad when they began talking. He lulled her in and then played the sob story card. His computer & wallet had been stolen and he was stranded abroad. He asked her for money. Thank goodness she had friends around her that told her that was a red flag, that somebody traveling on business would have other avenues to find a way home. Turns out this is a con-game played through the dating sites on lots of women. Someone tried to play it on me several times through a vanilla site but I was wise to them. Reported their profile and had it removed.
So when I say her post makes me angry, its men who take advantage of women that make me angry. No man should be asking for money from a woman...unless they are married.
Kat you shouldn't be embarrassed you should feel taken advantage of, you were a victim. I was a victim, I learned a very hard lesson but I have forgiven him and myself. So that I could move on with my life in a positive way.
I left his fate to Karma....Karma is a bitch that never forgets!